Day 2: Shedding Identities

Nine years of working a steady job in the entertainment industry is unheard of so when I made the decision to hand out my last rose, many thought I was crazy. They’d say, “You have such a good thing” or “why leave such a dream job?”  But what I had come to realize is that Casting for The Bachelor was just that, a job and I wanted a career, a career that aligned with my core passions and desires in life.

Identities are a powerful collection of beliefs and thoughts that we have about ourselves that gives us a sense of self-realization and self-awareness. What we believe to be our identity is the driving force behind our behaviors because what we believe about ourselves changes how we feel, how we react to others and how we carry ourselves. My identity of being “Carli Jo, Casting Producer for The Bachelor” was so prevalent and an important part of my self worth that I worried: “who am I without it? Will people still find me interesting, will I still be respected and what will my new signature be on my email!?”

What I have learned over the course of my Sex, Love & Relationship certification program is that no characteristic or identity remains the same over a lifetime, we change, we grow and we evolve. It’s ok to shed a past identity that no longer serves us or aligns with our purpose in life. Although I look back at the past nine years with fond memories, I am very excited for the next chapter in my life.  What is next for me? Stay tuned to find out! I will be posting my #31daysoforiginalessence all month long!

My first casting event, 2010

My first casting event, 2010

Sean Lowe and I at AFR when they announced him as THE Bachelor, 2011

Sean Lowe and I at AFR when they announced him as THE Bachelor, 2011

Outside the mansion for my very last season, 2017

Outside the mansion for my very last season, 2017