I define failure as...
Failing to live up to the expectations of our own personal happiness.
I use to believe that failure was about not succeeding in getting my desires met. But now I understand that failure happens when the step towards something great isn't taken. Failure is the very act of not trying out of fear of failure itself. It's not showing up, not doing the work and not believing in yourself.
I've been thinking about this a lot lately as I work on launching my coaching business. There are days where I don't feel like showing up and doing the work. I sat with this recently to see if any fear or resistance came up. During a beautiful meditation ritual I asked myself if I am afraid of failure and this is what she said:
I am not afraid of failure because I am already successful. I've been successful in my own personal journey of discovering self love and self compassion, healing childhood wounds and sexual blockages. I'm already successful in helping many other women find clarity on stagnant energy and feelings of disconnect from their bodies, their sexuality and their true desires in life.
A benefit of failure is that it molds our character, helping us learn from our mistakes in order to continue to grow. If we can surrender to the process without fear of failure then we hold the power and the word "failure" doesn't seem so scary.
Where are you failing to see your success?