When I became orgasmic for the first time I wanted to celebrate it with the world! I wanted so badly to share my newly discovered ecstatic pleasure on social media because I wanted other women to know that with practice, dedication and loving support they too could experience mind-blowing orgasms. Screw the message that we've been raised to believe; that orgasms were reserved for an elite group, consisting of only 20% of women. Screw the outdated science and misconceptions that women don't enjoy sex as much as men. And most of all, screw the societal judgement and shame around sex - the reason for the fear that bubbled causing me not to post my orgasmic celebration to the world.
I remember sitting at lunch with a girlfriend back in July, telling her my orgasmic story and how I desired to share on my Instagram account. We spoke about my fear of how my friends and family would react. How publicly declaring my divine right to experience pleasure was vulnerable. I told her I felt scared, scared that I wouldn't be loved or respected if I spoke on something so taboo, so shunned, so "private" in our society. Although I didn't share back in July, I was becoming increasingly aware of how much of what I thought about my sexuality was driven by cultural and societal programming.
My whole life I'd believed that 80% of women can't orgasm from penetration alone.
80% is a huge portion of the female population, why didn't I think to question this?!
The media (where most of us get the majority of our sex education) most often portrays women as epic sex goddesses who are able to create incredibly juicy and erotic orgasms (for both their partner & themselves) within 5 minutes of starting sexual intercourse.
This solidified the story I had always believed...
If I wasn't experiencing mind-blowing, epic climaxes after 10-15 minutes of sex then I must be in the 80 percentile; I must not be capable at all. And not having orgasms is how I experienced sex for the majority of my life.
It wasn't until I started Layla Martin's Tantric School of Integrated Sexuality that I learned I had been lied to! My whole life I had been missing out on the possibility to have epic orgasms. We are all born sexual beings with the ability to orgasm; but for most of us, our sexual playfulness and power gets stripped away, replaced with shame and guilt. So how did I become ORGASMIC?! I dedicated myself to staying present with my sexuality, even when it was uncomfortable. I replaced criticism with curiosity, and began to really connect with my pussy and honor my sexual desires.
Slowly I've written a new narrative - my sexual pleasure is MINE; it was created for me and is cultivated by me. no one can interfere with the love & reverence I have for my pussy.
Ready to awaken your orgasmic potential?